As an immigrant and community organizer working across ethnic borders, I offer unique insight into the ways residual colonialism continues to warp sexuality norms. Much of what we experience as acceptable sexuality has been shaped by colonialism. I develop cutting edge workshops on how gender and sexual behavior is marginalized by these moving systems of oppression.
Sexuality is morphed by the pressures of compounding oppressions, which is why I offer solution-focused workshops that affirm the colonized experience and contribute to the radical imagination of our decolonial sexual futures. We must unlearn the ways we are forced to exist normally, and begin to imagine the ways we can flourish outside of this pressurized system. By aggregating individual forms of sexual resistance, I am able to weave together workshops explaining broader ideas of collective sexual liberation.
Disability as a natural part of the human experience, which is why I offer a distinctive culture of acceptance, freedom from stigma, and release of shame for all of my clients. All bodies are good bodies. And all bodies deserve love, care, and respect from a clinician who is constantly working to disrupt the field by broadening disability inclusive treatment modalities.
South Asian sexuality
Much of my graduate experience was spent writing about the immigrant sexual experience and unlearning dominant sexual norms. I build workshops for clinicians to better understand South Asian individuals and families living within the North American diaspora as a special clinical population due to their specific migration histories. These workshops include an uncommon assessment of South Asian sexuality and ethnosexual identitiy development.
I offer an extraordinary pro-body perspective that is exclusively anti-diet. This means I will never invoke moral food code by telling you to replace foods you love with foods you hate. I operate from a deeply body positive model, which teaches body acceptance and eventually body love by first healing body image trauma from within. This involves rejecting external pressure from diet culture and re-centering around our body's inner compass. I also construct workshops for clinicians to learn to recognize fat culture and treat fat trauma.
For more than 6 years I have worked with individuals (ages 13+) who have experienced domestic and sexual violence. As a sex therapist trained to address generalized sexuality-related issues, I have specially-defined expertise within this domain of gendered violence and sexual trauma. At the intersection of warm comfort and radical acceptance, my therapeutic foundation feels more like a post-trauma doula. I provide a non-medical guided-experience after sexual trauma, using physical and emotional support to help clients realize their new realities.
“Sonalee is enlightening. Her workshop challenged my preconceived knowledge and allowed for me to explore a new culture.”South Asians as a Special Clinical Population
“I really appreciated how Sonalee related to her own experiences. I like how she uses herself as an example. I felt that it made the information more real.”South Asians as a Special Clinical Population
“Sonalee curated a visual smorgasbord, which made the presentation very memorable for me. Each of those photos will stick with me after this presentation.”South Asians as a Special Clinical Population
“My favorite part about this workshop and what stood out to me the most was how Sonalee incorporated her vast knowledge about South Asia to go hand in hand with gender identity.”South Asians as a Special Clinical Population
“This was the best workshop I attended, hands down. I thought Sonalee did a fantastic job at really breaking down how everything is connected to sex education.”Attendee
I thought Sonalee did a fantastic job at really breaking down how everything is connected to sex educationThe Case for Sex Criticality: Considerations for Anti-Oppressive Sexuality Educators
Presenters did an excellent job of engaging the audience through discussion, personal examples, and questions related to body-image, media, perpetuated social concepts, and inclusiveness through educationBody Inclusive Sex Ed